Tag: Non-violent Communication

Time for Rest – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/12/19/time-for-rest/ You don’t have infinite energy.  But it is tempting to pretend like you do. Especially during the hecticness of the holidays, with so much going on, so much to do, and cultural and family expectations to live up to, it is tempting to pretend that we can do it all.  We make long to-do lists.  We consume large amounts of caffeine and sugar to keep us working.  And then we beat ourselves […]

A Time for Healing – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/11/21/a-time-for-healing/ The election is over. It was a long and bitter primary season and then election season.  On all sides there were angry and divisive attacks and accusations made.  And now living in the aftermath of a Trump’s election there are many seeds that could further the fractured and divided state of our nation. Now is a time for healing. Please, bring all that you’ve learned about Compassionate Communication into your political dialogues […]

Post-Election Connection with Darrell Becker (Voluntary Visions)

Cross-Posted: http://VoluntaryVisions.com/2016/11/13/post-election-connection-with-darrell-becker-voluntary-visions Audio: http://VoluntaryVisions.com/audio/Wiki-World-Order-Post-Election-Connection-With-Voluntary-Visions.mp3 Darrell Becker, Morgan Lesko, and Katie Stone try to start figuring out how to building bridges of empathy in this moment. No matter the outcome of the 2016’s America’s Next Top President, this country was always going to need the skills sets which Darrell Becker explores and teaches at VoluntaryVisions.com. Given Trump’s victory, which seems to have surprised most of the world, our culture could benefit from building some of the […]

Empathy: What Brings Us Together – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/10/24/empathy-what-brings-us-together/ If you’re wondering why the world seems to be tearing itself apart, the answer is simple: lack of empathy. Empathy is the art of experiencing the feelings and the worldview of another as if it were your own, without losing that “as if” quality.  Empathy is when your friend is angry at their boss and you can stand with them in their anger, and feel it with them, without trying to fix […]

Do We Even Know What We Want? – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/10/10/do-we-even-know-what-we-want/ How often do I find myself upset and complaining about a situation to a friend, and they ask me ‘well, how do you specifically want it to be different?’ and I have no answer?  Uncomfortably too often. Sure, I can say that I want more respect, or I want more support, or I want more help, but when pushed to get specific about what it looks like to have more respect, support, […]

Marriage: How Do You Know You’ve Found “The One”? – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/09/26/marriage-how-do-you-know-youve-found-the-one/ I’ve attended a lot of weddings this summer (my own included in that).  And in going to so many weddings, the question naturally arises “how do you know when you’ve found ‘the one’?” This is a very anxiety producing question in our culture.  Many of us were raised on a diet of fairy tale love stories, Disney movies, and rom-coms that depict moments where the light bulb goes off, things click, and […]

Me & Not Me – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/09/12/me-not-me/ I want to share with you one of my favorite exercises that helps people set boundaries.  It’s called “Me & Not Me”. One of the key obstacles to setting boundaries is a difficulty in separating oneself from others.  Now, that might sound silly.  Of course you know who you are, and that you are a separate person from your partner or your friends.  But there are all sorts of sneaky ways in […]

Three Essentials to Staying Connected in Stressful Times – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/08/15/three-ways-for-couples-to-stay-connected-in-stressful-times/ Relationships have seasons. Sometimes a relationship is in a season of peace and tranquility.  And sometimes a relationship is in a season of stress and frustration. These difficult seasons are inevitable.  My now wife and I just got married in July (regular readers may have noticed a lack of blog posts that month).  And while it was a wonderful celebration, it certainly was a stressful build up.  If our relationships are going […]

Feelings: The Language of Connection – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/06/27/feelings-the-language-of-connection/ Time and time again, the most powerful shift in couples I coach happens when they start expressing their feelings to one another.  Our emotions are truly the language of connection.  And so it is tragic that we in the West have mostly been cut off from our feelings. Emotions are not simply whatever we put after the phrase “I feel…”  Unfortunately, we’ve learned to replace feelings with lots of thoughts.   “I feel […]

Needs: The Signposts of the Soul – by Kind Communication


Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/05/29/needs-the-signposts-of-the-soul/ We all have needs.  And those needs go far beyond just air, food, water, and shelter. We need love, warmth, acceptance, community, friendship, honesty, respect, connection, and the list goes on and on and on.  The Center for Nonviolent Communication has created a wonderful list of potential needs.  This list is not meant to be all inclusive, but it gives you an idea of all the various things we need. Our needs […]

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