Tag: Non-violent Communication

Understanding Privilege – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/01/25/understanding-privilege/ I have been born with a tremendous amount of privilege.  I am a straight white male, who grew up in an upper middle-class, Christian home.  All of these different accidental properties of my identity and upbringing carry with them unearned advantages.  These unearned advantages are called “privilege”.  I do not feel guilty about this, nor should I.  Part of the very definition of “privilege” is “unearned”.  It is merely an accident, chance, […]

Empathizing with Your Shadow Side – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/01/04/empathizing-with-your-shadow-side/ We all have a shadow side.  A side of you that you don’t want others to see or notice.  I know I have a shadow side.  There are opinions, feelings, and parts of my personality which I don’t want other people to see.  And it’s not just that I don’t want other people to see them, I also judge those parts of myself as “wrong”, “bad”, or “deficient” Do you know what […]

Celebration – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/12/14/celebration/ It is important to regularly celebrate.  Now that may sound simple, trite, and obvious; however, do you do it?  I know that you celebrate when something big and exciting happens.  You celebrated when you graduated from school.  When you got a new job.  When you met someone that you love.  But did you celebrate when after a long day of stress and obligations you got to finally sit and rest?  Did you […]

Say What You Mean, Not What You Fear – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/11/30/say-what-you-mean-not-what-you-fear/ I saw a funny cartoon about communication posted on a friend’s Facebook wall.  It’s called If You Want to Say Thank You, Don’t Say Sorry. This cartoon caught my attention, not only because it has to do with communication, but because I used to be notorious for saying “sorry” all…the…time!  It was my go to word, whenever there was a moment of vulnerability, openness, and realness out would pop the word “sorry”.  […]

Paris – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/11/16/paris-2/ I have nothing profound to say.  I simply wish to say:  let’s grieve, and let’s have empathy. Tragedies have occurred and continue to occur around us.  There are the events in Paris.  There are the events in Beirut.  Both deserve to be grieved.  And so let’s grieve.  Grieving isn’t just tears, it is also the expression of anger, confusion, doubt, uncertainty.  It is the expression of all our pain as we witness […]

The Busyness Drug – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/10/30/the-busyness-drug/ How long can you just sit still and not do anything? A minute?  Ten minutes?  Thirty?  A whole hour?  When do you start getting uncomfortable and start saying ‘I’ve got to find something to do!’? I’d be willing to bet that after caffeine and alcohol, busyness is the third biggest drug in America.  We want to stay active.  Life is easier and simpler when we have something to do.  If we’re just […]

How to Say “I’m Sorry” – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/10/16/how-to-say-im-sorry/ We all make mistakes.  We all do things to intentionally hurt others.  We all need to be forgiven. Asking for forgiveness is hard.  It requires us to admit that we’ve done something we’re not proud of.  It may require us to admit to ourselves that we’ve done something against our own moral values.  Asking for forgiveness requires humility. I don’t know about you, but I have a very hard time with this. […]

Navigating Crisis – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/10/05/navigating-crisis/ You’ve lost your job.  The car has died.  You’re swamped at work and that’s keeping you from your friends and family.  A loved one has been diagnosed with a terminal disease, or maybe you’ve been diagnosed with a serious disease.  A loved one dies.  You’re not happy with where you are in life, and you have no idea what next steps to take. These are all crisis.  They are moments in life […]

Play – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/09/21/play/ When was the last time you just played? Remember when you were a kid, and you could just be lost for hours in your room playing?  Or you were out with friends in the woods exploring and creating elaborate fantasy worlds together?  Or even just at the end of the street playing games that brought you and your friends closer together? When was the last time you played like that? In the […]

Stress Isn’t The Problem… – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2015/08/24/stress-isnt-the-problem/ My own counselor opened my eyes to this.  I came to her last week saying “oh man, I’m sooooo stressed, it’s terrible.”  And she looked at me and said, “you know stress isn’t your problem.  It’s your reaction to stress.” With such a simple sentence my counselor opened my mind to a brand new way that I could have a relationship to stress.  I, like most people, have a very troubled relationship […]

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