Do We Even Know What We Want? – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/10/10/do-we-even-know-what-we-want/ How often do I find myself upset and complaining about a situation to a friend, and they ask me ‘well, how do you specifically want it to be different?’ and I have no answer?  Uncomfortably too often. Continue reading Do We Even Know What We Want? – by Kind Communication

Marriage: How Do You Know You’ve Found “The One”? – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/09/26/marriage-how-do-you-know-youve-found-the-one/ I’ve attended a lot of weddings this summer (my own included in that).  And in going to so many weddings, the question naturally arises “how do you know when you’ve found ‘the one’?” This is a very Continue reading Marriage: How Do You Know You’ve Found “The One”? – by Kind Communication

Me & Not Me – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/09/12/me-not-me/ I want to share with you one of my favorite exercises that helps people set boundaries.  It’s called “Me & Not Me”. One of the key obstacles to setting boundaries is a difficulty in separating oneself from Continue reading Me & Not Me – by Kind Communication

Three Essentials to Staying Connected in Stressful Times – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/08/15/three-ways-for-couples-to-stay-connected-in-stressful-times/ Relationships have seasons. Sometimes a relationship is in a season of peace and tranquility.  And sometimes a relationship is in a season of stress and frustration. These difficult seasons are inevitable.  My now wife and I just Continue reading Three Essentials to Staying Connected in Stressful Times – by Kind Communication

Feelings: The Language of Connection – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/06/27/feelings-the-language-of-connection/ Time and time again, the most powerful shift in couples I coach happens when they start expressing their feelings to one another.  Our emotions are truly the language of connection.  And so it is tragic that we Continue reading Feelings: The Language of Connection – by Kind Communication

Needs: The Signposts of the Soul – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/05/29/needs-the-signposts-of-the-soul/ We all have needs.  And those needs go far beyond just air, food, water, and shelter. We need love, warmth, acceptance, community, friendship, honesty, respect, connection, and the list goes on and on and on.  The Center Continue reading Needs: The Signposts of the Soul – by Kind Communication

Navigating the Intimacy Paradox – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/05/02/navigating-the-intimacy-paradox/ Intimacy is a paradox. We both crave it, and hate it. Richard Rohr, in his book Immortal Diamond clearly and succinctly summarizes this paradox:  “intimacy happens when we reveal and expose our insides, and this is always Continue reading Navigating the Intimacy Paradox – by Kind Communication

“Well, I Didn’t Mean It Like That…” – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/04/18/intention-v-impact/ “Well, I didn’t mean it like that…” Sometimes you, and I, try to apologize for the impact our words have on others by trying to explain the intention behind them. Certainly sometimes explaining our intention is helpful Continue reading “Well, I Didn’t Mean It Like That…” – by Kind Communication

What Surrounds You Shapes You – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/04/04/what-surrounds-you-shapes-you/ I saw this powerful PSA on Facebook the other day: Powerful, right? It’s true, children are sponges.  Whatever their parents (& peers) say and do, they absorb it and it shapes how they act.  And those models Continue reading What Surrounds You Shapes You – by Kind Communication

Observing Yourself – by Kind Communication

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Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2016/03/20/observing-yourself/ In Compassionate Communication there are five major skills.  One of them is called “observation”.  At first, I thought this skill was all about noticing and talking about what you literally see.  So instead of “this room is Continue reading Observing Yourself – by Kind Communication