Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 11.5.2013

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(Audio) Peace Revolution episode #77: The Rise of the Surveillance State / Freedom isn’t Free

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(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World This Week – Russell Brandwagon, CIA Healthcare, Food Stamp Riots

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(Audio) The Corbett Report and Radio Liberty: The Markets This Week

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(Video) School Sucks Project: The New Dumbness (Best of Gatto, Episode Four)

(Audio) School Sucks episode #242: The Trivium (Part One) – Introduction and Grammar

(Video) School Sucks Project: The New Individualism (Best of Gatto, Episode Three)

(Audio) The Meria Heller Show: Meria with Greg Palast

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(Audio) Red Ice Radio 3Fourteen: Peter Eric Hendrickson – Cracking the Code: The Truth About Taxation in America

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Radical Honesty – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/11/03/radical-honesty/

Most people think “radical honesty” must involve telling your friends, loved ones, and co-workers all the worst judgments, criticisms, and blame that you’re mind can produce.  ”You want me to be radically honest??” a client of mine protests. “You want me to tell her how she’s constantly nagging and never gives me space to even breathe??”

Well…not quite.

I’d say the above is still just another type of lying.  It assumes that the other person is at fault, and that if they would only change then things would improve.  It essentially denies the speaker’s responsibility for their own experience.  And that’s not honest.

There are three things that radical honesty requires: 1) telling the factual truth about what happened, 2) owning your feelings and core desires, and 3) revealing your deeper values.

So as you can see, radical honesty is really all about the speaker, not about the listner.  Let me demonstrate what I’m talking about when I say “radical honesty”:

“I’m really sad that you don’t want to see this movie with me, to be honest I really admire you and find you quite attractive.”

“When you didn’t call home last night, I was scared…really scared…that maybe you weren’t okay…but also that maybe you don’t really respect or love me.”

“You know, I’d really like to connect with you right now, but I’m frustrated that I’m not connecting well to this topic.”

And why would you ever want to do this?  Anytime you want to have more intimacy.  When you want the other person to really see and “get” you.  When an argument or fight has just been going on and on with no end in sight.  When you want more connection.

Essentially when you want to have a deep, rich, and powerful relationship with another person.

This certainly isn’t easy to do.  We often hide behind such rationalizations as “I don’t want to hurt your feelings” or “its actually not that important.”

But if you’re avoiding being this honest with people ask yourself “who really ever gets to see me?”  or “am I ‘protecting’ this person or the relationship at the cost of myself?”  It is vital to a healthy relationship that you get to be seen and understood for who you really are.  And no one can do that for you if you aren’t radically honest with them.

A quick story from my life:

I was on a date with a girl, and it actually was pretty boring.  There just wasn’t much of a spark, we kept just bantering and making small talk.  Finally I peeped up “hey, you know…I was excited about going on this date, but now I’m actually feeling a little bored.  I’d like us to have a fun date…so could you tell me what you really think of me so far, and how you think this date is going?”

My date at first gave me this look of just utter confusion.  But then slowly smiled and said “well…I guess I also wasn’t having that much fun…you’re not really my type and I thought we would have had more in common…but I really admire you for asking.”

I laughed.  ”Yeah…it was scary.  And I am kinda sad that you’re not really that into me, I find you very attractive.”

We talked for a little while longer, paid our bill, and left.  We didn’t have a second date.  But that moment was so exciting and fun, even in remembering and typing it here I felt some of the thrill of that moment.  And we didn’t have to continue pretending that something was going to come of us dating which just wansn’t true.  We both got to really see each other in that moment.

Sometimes you won’t like what you see, but at least you’ll know where you stand.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Up in Smoke: A Timeline of Marijuana Use in the U.S. (info graphic)

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Up in Smoke: A Timeline of Marijuana Use in the U.S.

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Up in Smoke: A Timeline of Marijuana Use in the U.S.

The political discussion regarding decriminalizing marijuana use is centuries old, yet remains a hot-button issue even today. Where did it all start? Are we heading for a full legalization of marijuana throughout the country? Let’s explore some of these questions, as well as a quick look at the increase of its use in the U.S.
Reefer Madness?

18.9 million – The number of marijuana users (occasional and daily) in the U.S. This accounts for 7.3% of the population.
42% – The percentage of Americans 12 and older who have used marijuana at one point in their lives
4.4 million – The increase in marijuana users from 2007 to today
48.3% – Percentage of drug arrests involving marijuana
1 in 3 – Americans who live in states where pot is legal for medical uses
333,578 – Americans admitted to treatment programs for marijuana abuse or addiction in 2011, though chemical addiction to the drug remains a debatable issue
Washington and Colorad – The only two states that have legalized the recreational use of small amounts of marijuana

Medicinal Marijuana

- Marijuana isn’t always used for recreation. Its euphoric “high” is often utilized as a natural painkiller for various diseases. But only select states hold the right to disperse it to patients.

There are currently 21 states that allow the use of medicinal marijuana, including D.C.
- Alaska – Arizona – California – Colorado – Connecticut – D.C. – Delaware – Hawaii – Illinois – Maine – Massachusetts – Michigan – Montana – Nevada – New Hampshire – New Jersey – New Mexico – Oregon – Rhode Island – Vermont – Washington

Diseases/conditions for which medicinal marijuana can be prescribed:
- AIDS (HIV) – Alzheimer’s disease – Arthritis – Crohn’s disease – Epilepsy – Glaucoma – Hepatitis C – Migraines – Multiple sclerosis – Nausea due to chemotherapy – Tourette’s syndrome – Those with terminally ill cancers/conditions

Back in the Day
- Where did it all start? Here is a brief timeline of marijuana production and use in the U.S.

1890s – After the Civil War, marijuana is sold in many over-the-counter medicinal products, and hemp is still a common element in clothes manufacturing.
1906 – The Pure Food and Drug Act is passed, requiring any product with cannabis in it be labeled appropriately.
1920s – After the Mexican Revolution, Mexican immigrants migrate to the United States. Recreational use of marijuana spikes, and the drug becomes associated with the immigrant population.
1930 – The Federal Bureau of Narcotics is established, and the federal criminalization of marijuana looms.
1931 – The list of states outlawing marijuana rises to 29 as fear and resentment of Mexican immigrants increases during the Great Depression.
1936 – “Reefer Madness,” the propaganda film intent on scaring middle class white citizens into fearing marijuana use, is released.
1950s – Federal mandatory minimum sentences for marijuana possession and use are established.
1960s – Recreational use of marijuana increases and creeps into upper-class America. But its effects are scientifically studied and shown not to induce violence.
1970s – Many mandatory minimum sentences for marijuana are repealed, and for the first time marijuana is differentiated from other more harmful drugs.
1986 – President Ronald Reagan promises to get tough on marijuana use and introduces new federal minimum mandatory sentences.
1996 – California’s Proposition 215 allows marijuana to be used as a painkiller for various diseases, include AIDS and cancer.
2000 to 2011 – More than a dozen states vote to decriminalize marijuana for medical uses. But because of federal laws, marijuana use and possession still remain chargeable offenses.
2012 – Washington and Colorado become the first two states to legalize recreational use of marijuana for some adults.

The Doobie Debate: Dangerous Gateway or Harmless Hobby?

To some, it’s a less-dangerous version of alcohol. To others, it’s a hazardous trend that provides a gateway into harder drugs. Let’s take a closer look at this debate and where it leaves the U.S. today.

There is a clear difference between both the number of people who smoke marijuana today compared to the 20th century and the number of people who are willing to admit it.

1964 – 4 in 100 people had smoked marijuana in the past year.
2013 – Gallup polls show that 1 in 4 people have smoked marijuana in the past year.

What are the two sides actually saying?

Legalize it!

Marijuana is no more harmful to the body than alcohol or cigarettes.
Crime rates relating to marijuana and drug cartels would reduce.
The FDA could regulate the safety of marijuana.
Its legalization would free “criminals” who have suffered harsh mandatory minimum sentences in U.S. prisons.

No hope in dope!

Marijuana is a gateway drug to harder, more dangerous drugs.
Incidents of intoxicated driving would increase.
Those who have been arrested for marijuana-related charges will be back on the streets and committing more crimes.
The legalization of marijuana will eventually lead to the legalization of all drugs.

Citations

- http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-numbers-count-mental-disorders-in-america/index.shtml
- http://www.drugwarfacts.org
- http://www.medicalmarijuana.procon.org
- http://www.pbs.org
- http://www.balancedpolitics.org
- http://www.policymic.com
- http://www.reuters.com
- http://www.wptv.com

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 10.20.2013

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The One Thing to Become More Compassionate – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/10/20/the-one-thing-to-become-more-compassionate/

Do you ever wish you could be more compassionate?  Wish you weren’t as critical of others, or of yourself?  Luckily there’s really only one thing you need to do to become more compassionate.  Have empathy.  Empathy is the experience of putting yourself in somone’s shoes.  Its about really feeling what another person feels.  Its about identifying and connecting with the core desires and concerns in others and oneself.

Sympathy is when we notice another’s suffering, and feel pity but we keep ourselves at a safe distance.  Empathy is stronger, it is actually entering that other person’s world.  Feeling their pain as if it were your own.

But there are three things that stop most of us from empathizing with ourselves or others.

First, we’re often feel scared.  We’re scared of lots of things.  You might be scared that if you embrace this person’s world you will lose your own perspective.  You’ll become just as sad as they are, or you’ll start agreeing with them and lose your perspective.  You might be scared that if I empathize with someone then you wont be able to take care of yourself as effectively.  You might be scared that if you let yourself feel that much, you’ll get hurt.  Fear is a big obstacle that stops people from reaching out and connecting with others.  But this fear of connecting with others stops us from being the fully compassionate beings we can be.  This fear may never go away, and so we need the courage to empathize with people even when we are scared.

Second, we might think that they’re just wrong.  When someone’s doing something I disagree with, I often have the thought “you’re wrong”.  One time a participant in a workshop said “this exercise was boring”.  My immediate reaction in my head was “well then you didn’t do it right”.  And as I was having that belief I felt all this resentment and resistence to this person.  Luckily, I checked myself before speaking….I noticed this thought and identified the underlying feelings and needs.  I was scared that I wasn’t being appreciated & supported.  I then was able to voice my anxiety in the moment, as well as my desire for the participant to get the growth they were looking for.  But as long as I viewed that participant as wrong there was no way I could extend empathy and thus compassion to them.

Third, we don’t know how.  Or put more accurately we’ve forgotten how.  It seems to me that my most natural state is to be compassionate.  When I’m compassionate I’m struggling less, I’m more present in the moment, I feel more relaxed.  What could be more natural than those things?  Our culture though doesn’t teach compassion.  Certainly little pockets of our culture do.  And certainly large pockets of our culture gives compassion and empathy lip service.  But the large message I hear when I see the news, most movies, and most television is to get what your’s.  That the world is dog eat dog, and you’ve got to get what’s yours first.  That you need to win.  And so after decades of that kind of training must of us forget how to empathize and connect with another person.  We’ve learnt to just view the world through our own ego.  And so if you find yourself here the lucky thing is that there are lots of great teachers, books, and exercises to relearn how to empathize with others.  For starters just try this: the next time a friend is venting to you, stay quite.  Nod your head, try to mirror the other person’s facial expressions.  And when they pause ask them how they felt when that happened.  You might be surprised by the results.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 10.7.2013

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Four Questions to Know if Nonviolent Communication is What You Want – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/10/06/four-questions-to-know-if-nonviolent-communication-is-needed/

I’ve been asked by several people “when should I use Nonviolent Communication?”  And I used to answer with a resounding “Always! Anytime!”  But I finally noticed that this only reinforced a “have to” mentality.  Now people were burdened with this new obligation.  So allow me to give four questions to help you figure out if Nonviolent Communication will help meet your needs in a given situation.

First, “am I talking about a personal issue or an intellectual issue?”  Nonviolent Communication pushes you to get out of your thoughts and into your feelings and core desires and concerns (needs).  When you discuss thoughts there is this inherent evaluation of true or false, better or worst.  While when you discuss feelings there is equity of sharing.  But that isn’t to say that thought filled discussions aren’t useful.  If you’re discussing the merits of a scientific study, or if you’re diagnosing a car problem, or if you’re trying to figure out how to solve a complicated problem on a work project you may need to look at thoughts and ideas and evaluate which ones are more useful than others.

Sometimes though we think an issue is an intellectual one, but in fact it is quite personal.  I remember once I was dating someone long distance, and we were having a difficult time about how often we got to see each other.  I thought “oh how simple, let’s just discuss options for how we could see each other more often.”  What a good intellectual challenge.  But I found as I went over and over the same options my partner was just getting more and more frustrated.  I missed the boat.  I thought we were having an intellectual conversation, but my partner really wanted a personal discussion.

That story reminds me of the second question, “am I getting stuck?  Do I feel unheard?”  I was getting stuck in a loop.  I just kept repeating the same four options over and over again, and my partner was just getting more and more angry.  If I had stopped to ask myself this second question, I would have screamed “yes!”  This was a sign that I needed to dive deeper.  Instead of repeating my four options, I could go a little deeper and reveal my feelings and needs.  The conversation with my partner would have changed radically if I had said “you know, I’m really annoyed and disappointed that I can’t solve this problem with you…in fact I feel hopeless.  I’m really scared though that admitting that means that I’m going to lose you and our connection.”

And the same goes for the other person.  “Does my conversation partner seem stuck?  Do they seem unheard?”  They may need some help breaking into a more vulnerable and connected conversation.  Try extending some empathy; reflecting back the unspoken feelings and needs you think are there.  I could have tried saying to my partner “oh…you know it sounds like you’re really upset?  Is that cause you’re scared that there aren’t any good solutions to our problem?  And are you sad that maybe we can’t make this work?”

Vulnerability can break the cycle.

The final question I have is “do I want to experience a deeper connection here?”  The goal of Nonviolent Communication is to create intimacy and connection through being vulnerable.  Is that what you want to occur?  Maybe you do, but maybe you don’t.  I don’t always want to have deep connection and intimacy with the stranger I meet in the check-out line, sometimes I just want to get home.  But I certainly wanted to have a deeper connection with my partner in the story above.  That’s the whole reason we wanted to see each other more often!  And so this final question may be the real fundamental question to when to use Nonviolent Communication and when to not.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 9.29.2013

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Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 9.23.2013

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The Three Questions to Reveal Your Motivation – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/09/22/the-three-questions-to-reveal-your-motivation/

In Nonviolent Communication you strive to act out of your needs.  Everything you do, you want to do it because it serves your needs, including your need to help others.  If you can do this, then you’ll experience life as joyful play.

However, this isn’t how the wider culture encourages you to act.  You live in a culture that endorses the punishment and reward model.  This model says that your behavior is shaped by the rewards and punishments we receive.  You act in certain ways becasue they will produce some sort of reward or avoid some sort of punishment.  And as a culture we like this model because it makes life very simple: if I want my kids to clean up their room threaten them with a time out; if I want my wife to make dinner just buy her flowers; if I want to stop swearing put money in a jar every time I do.

The problem with the punishment and reward model is that it breeds resentment.  I’m sure you can think of a time when you were a kid and your parents threatened you with some sort of punishment if you didn’t do X, and so you did X but with a grudge.  And rewards equally develop resentment.  For example, when I was younger my parents would give me an allowance for mowing the yard.  If I didn’t mow it, there wouldn’t be any punishment per se, I just wouldn’t get the money.  So I’d mow the lawn every week, but the whole time I felt frustrated that I “had” to do it.  I got a reward for mowing the lawn, and it still cultivated resentment in me.

So how can we tell when we’re acting out of the punishment and reward model or out of our own needs?  Below are three questions that reveal your true motivation:

“Why am I doing this?”

“What am I thinking about while doing this?”

“How do I feel while doing this?”

You can ask yourself these questions about any activity you’re engaged in.  The first one can sometimes give the simplest and quickest answer.  When I worked as a waiter if I had asked myself “why am I doing this?” the answer would have been simple…”money”.  But money is not a need of ours.  At best it is a strategy to meet needs like food, shelter, etc but more often it is simply a reward.  Now when I ask the question “why am I doing this?” about teaching Nonviolent Communication my answer is “to help other people”.  We all have a need to help others and contribute to their well-being.

But sometimes our answers to that first question aren’t so simple.  Sometimes we think that we’re doing something out of our own needs, but when we dig a little deeper we find that in fact we’re still playing the reward and punishment game.  That’s why we have two other very helpful questions “What am I thinking about while doing this?” and “How do I feel while doing this?”

A close friend asked me to take care of her dog while she was away.  I agreed thinking to myself “I’d love to help her, I really appreciate our friendship”.  Seems like I’m acting out of my own needs.  But then I noticed that while taking the dog on long walks, being awoken in the middle of the night to let the dog out, and picking up the dog’s droppings I was feeling annoyed and agitated.  I also felt excited about when my friend would return and I could go home.  I also noticed that while taking care of the dog I was constantly thinking about the money I’d be making and what I could do with it, instead of thinking about my friend, or being present in the moment, or even happy thoughts about doing something kind.  All of this indicated clearly that I was in fact doing this favor out of a desire for a reward rather than out of my own needs.

Try these questions out in your life.  See if you can distinguish what you do out of your own needs, and what you do because of punishments and rewards.  And then try to find ways to reduce how much you do because of the pressure of rewards and punishments.  The more you can do that, the more joyful and playful life becomes.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 9.15.2013

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(Video) History… Solutions: Ending the Drug War with Kevin Booth (American Drug War 2)

(Video) Gnostic Media episode #174: Mark Passio interview, Pt. 4 – “Balancing the Sacred Feminine and M…

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(Audio) School Sucks episode # 238b: Presence and Productivity #2 – Mind Like Water

(Audio) School Sucks episode # 238c: Presence and Productivity #3 – Input, Processing, Output

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(Audio) Red Ice Radio: William Engdahl – Doomsday Food & The Business of Eugenics

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The Three Steps to Overcoming Disappointment – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/09/09/the-three-steps-to-overcoming-disappointmen/

You can’t always get what you want.

But if you try sometimes,

well you just might find,

you get what you need.

-Rolling Stones

Have you always gotten everything you’ve ever wanted?  No?  Well you’re in good company.  We can all understand the Rolling Stones lyrics above because we’ve all experienced dissappointment.  We all run into situations where we want one thing, but get quite the opposite.

As some of my readers may have noticed, last week my August 26th newsletter went out….a week and a half late.  I was going on vacation the last week of August, and had written up my blog post and prepped the newsletter but then forgot to send it out.  I was really upset when I got home and discovered my mistake.  And so let me now reveal the three steps I went through to overcome my disappointment.

You may think that my example is a small issue, but these steps can be useful from very small disappointments to very big ones.  The three steps to overcoming disappointment are 1) be present with your feelings, 2) accept your needs which aren’t being met in the moment, and 3) try to find some other way to get your needs met.  It sounds very simple, and yet this can be very hard since you often don’t want to feel the unpleasant emotions and you get stuck “wishing the past was different”.

First, be present with your feelings.  When events don’t go the way you wanted them to, you experience negative emotions.  But you probably don’t really enjoy feeling sad, scared, angry, disappointed, or dejected.  And so you resist them.  Instead you’ll distract yourself by trying to forget about it, or ignore that anything happened, or you’ll blame someone else or the world, or you’ll attack yourself, or if the feelings are so overwhelming you may even use substances like alcohol to avoid these uncomfortable feelings.

When I discovered the forgotten newsletter the way I tried to avoid feeling my anxiety and disappointment was by sending it out immediately.  By doing that my mind could try to trick me “there, see now its done”.  And then I added a dose of “I can’t believe I forgot, how stupid of me” to really try and seal the deal on these pesky emotions.  But honestly I still felt upset about the newsletter not going out on time.  And if I didn’t eventually allow myself to be present with those feelings I would have gone through the whole day being grumpy “for no reason”.  When I realized that I was trying to avoid my feelings of disappointment and anxiety I stopped, sat down, and just let myself feel those things

And after you’re present with your feelings then you can accept what’s happened.  After you allow yourself to really feel your emotions, they tend to subside.  As you open yourself up to your emotions in a moment they initially seem to get more and more intense.  But then you’ll notice that they peak and then subside.  And once they start to fade you’ll discover what’s really bothering you.  So for me once I let myself sink into my chair and feel glum for a minute or two the feelings of anxiety and disappointment subsided.  And suddently my mind was cleared up to ask myself “why does this really bother me?”  The answer was that missing my deadline meant I wasn’t as consistent, effective, or in integrity with my values as I would have liked.  Those were my unmet needs.

Finally, once you’ve accepted the needs that were not met in whatever your situation is, you’ll then become freed up to find ways of getting those needs met elsewhere.  You can get so hung up on wishing the past was different that you never move on.  ”But I wanted my newsletter to go out on time!”  However, when you accept the unmet needs then you can look and see how you can get those needs met going forward.  For me that looked like: “well, if I write a blog post about my mistake I’ll have more integrity with myself.  And as long as I get the next newsletter out on time I’ll have that consistency back and effectiveness.”

So as a final recap, the three steps to overcoming disappointment are to 1) be present with your feelings, 2) accept the unment needs, and 3) find a way to meet those needs in the present or in future moments.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 9.8.2013

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(Video) The Corbett Report episode #280: Who Was Really Behind the 9/11 Attacks?

(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week: Global Tax Grid, Hemisphere Project, RFID ID
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(Video) James Corbett with David L. Smith: Geneva Business Insider: The Syria Sea of Change

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(Audio) James Corbett with Christoph Germann on the Afghan “Withdrawal”

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(Audio) Red Ice Radio: William Engdahl – War in Syria & Manufactured Conflicts

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(Audio) Meria Heller Show: Meria & Joseph Anthony “Stars R Us”

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TheShapeIsReal.com New Splash Page by WWO

As I shift a bit towards exercising more creative outlets, I’ve wrapped up another pure art project for my good friends’ band, The Shape. Using silly skills I’ve periodically played with for half my life, I’ve finally completed some 28 animated GIFs to bring their beautifully painted album cover and turn it into their new splash page.

Into Trenches album cover painted by Jon Weiss, oil on canvas. Painting scan by Hanson Digital. Animation by Morgan Lesko using GIMP & GIFfun. Best viewed full screen.

http://TheShapeIsReal.com/
http://TheShapeIsReal.com/into-trenches-splash-huge/

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 9.2.2013

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