The Shape: Happy Travels – Music Video by WWO

Journey of some basic and universally sacred geometries through recursive animations, plus a bit. Triangles, squares, pentagons, hexagons, merkabas, peace & love fractalized vesica piscis, all animated rescursively. Made for my good friends The Shape – Happy Travels: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVXGU7G9g_A – http://TheShapeIsReal.com

Open Source Animation! Download After Effects files and swap in anything you like to render these with: http://WikiWorldOrder.org/images/Shapes-AE-Files.zip
Component animations for music video…

More on Sacred Geometry: http://WoodenBooks.com/browse/index.php

The New Year – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/12/29/the-new-year/

This is the final piece in a three part series on “The Holidays”.  We’ve looked at how to make the tradition of giving and receiving gifts much more joyful.  I then answered the three most frequent questions I hear about how to bring Nonviolent Communication to your family.  And now I’m going to turn to the New Year.

If you read self-growth blogs and articles often then you’ve probably been bombarded with all sorts of suggestions about New Year resolutions and how to make the most out of the New Year.  And even if you haven’t, your mind is probably starting to wander into future tripping…thinking about what is to come.

I invite you to take a moment and ground yourself here in now.  Right now, you are in the transition from one year to the next.  You are in the in between time.  And I don’t have any suggestions for you on what to do differently in the New Year, but I do have a fun exercise if you’d like to try it.  This exercise will help you discover what you truly want in the New Year.

First, get in a quiet place, with paper and pen, and allow your mind to settle down.  Become still.  Many people find following their breath, or becoming aware of their expanding and contracting chest, to be helpful in quieting the mind.

Now, write down your top 3 – 5 moments from the year 2013.  In what moments did you feel utterly alive?  What were the moments that you wished could have been frozen in time?  What moments do you almost wish you could go back to right now?

Then, write down the 3 – 5 lowest moments in the year 2013.  What moments are etched in your memory from this year because of the pain and sadness?  What moments do you reflect on and cringe?  What is that moment which you don’t want to write down?

Now, write about what feelings and needs were met or not met in each of these moments.  Take your time with this step.  Allow yourself to connect with each feeling and each met or unmet need.  This is giving you a greater connection with your essential self, with the deepest values, core concerns, and core desires you have.

Finally, reflect upon everything you’ve written down.  Is there anything you want to make sure to do in the upcoming year to meet your needs?  Is there anything in the upcoming year you want to make sure you don’t do to avoid unmet needs?  Do you notice any recurring unmet needs?  If so, what specific things could you do to make sure those needs get me this year?  Do you notice any recurring needs that got fulfilled?  What specific things can you do to make sure they keep getting met?  With this final step the more specific you can get, the better.

I hope you have a great New Year.  I hope you find a more enriched life in 2014.  I hope you find new and innovative strategies to meet more of your needs.  And I hope that you give and receive more compassion than you did the year before.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 12.25.2013

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The Family – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/12/16/the-family/

This is the second part in my three part series on “The Holidays”.  Last time we looked at giving and getting more than presents this year.  And now I’m going to look at the tradition of seeing the family.

At the beginning, I’d like to recognize that some people won’t be seeing their families this holiday season and that may be very, very painful for them.  I just want to empathize with how hard, painful, isolating, lonely, and sad this holiday season can be for you.

But for those who are going to see their family, I want to go over three major issues that come up for people seeing their families.  One I hear all the time is that they wish there was more openness and vulnerability in their family, less small talk and niceties.  The second thing I hear is how people feel like they revert to a younger version of themselves when they’re around their families, and can’t remember their NVC skills at all.  And third, I hear people wanting to forgive family members and move on, but don’t know how.

“How do I have more openness, vulnerability, and authenticity in my family?”

You would really like to feel closer to and more connected to our families.  Closeness and connection really comes from being seen, understood, and accepted.  And the only way to even have a chance of being seen, understood, and accepted is by showing up as yourself.  You need to be willing to make the first move.  Be open about your life, share your vulnerabilities with your family, and be your authentic self.   Of course, there is nothing we can do to ensure that our family members give us acceptance or understanding.  They may not be willing or able to, and coming to terms with that can be quite painful and hard.

“How come when I see my family I fall back into old patterns, and can’t remember any skills I’ve learned?”

A natural question after that first one.  I’ve told you that if you want more authenticity, openness, and vulnerability in your family that you have to make the first move.  But in the moment when you’re sitting at dinner and someone speaks that dreaded word or phrase you’ve heard since childhood….all of a sudden you find yourself acting the same way you’ve acted for decades.  First, just give yourself some empathy here.  It’s very hard to overcome old behavior patterns, especially when you don’t feel supported by the people around you in making those changes.  And when you get triggered to a young childhood memory, of course your mind goes right back to the pain and suffering you felt then, leaving the present entirely.

And so I encourage you to in those moments self-empathize with yourself.  Pause, take a breath, and empathize with the pain you’re feeling.  Befriend that negative emotion.  And even if you’ve already acted the way you always have, and the moment seems to have passed, you can always go back and do a redo.  Simply say the person “You know, when I did x, y, and z a moment ago…it really wasn’t in integrity with my deeper values.  I’d like to try to express myself a little differently.  If I could do it again, I would have said…”  Don’t think of “mistakes” as failures, but as opportunities to practice your skills.

“I want to forgive my family and move on…but how?”

This is challenging indeed, but if you can do it, you will find it is very rewarding.  Begin by recognizing and befriending your own feelings and needs.  What exactly did your family member do that hurt you?  Can you describe it in photographic, observational language stripped away of all evaluation and interpretation?  If not, then you need to empathize with your own feelings and needs more.  Once you can see what the other person did as an objective third party might, then try to empathize, try to understand, what the other person was feeling and needing in that moment.  What was their action intended to accomplish for themselves?  How were they feeling in the moments leading up to that action?

And once you can befriend and empathize with how they were feeling and what they needed.  Then you can say “I forgive you.”

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 12.16.2013

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AltBib.Com Hits 5 Million Database Loads (Queries)

My earliest sister project of Wiki World Order (it’s predecessor in fact), has just passed a silly, self-created benchmark after four and a half years. AltBib.Com currently has 6,679 Reference Links, with 14,738 Tags/Keywords, 81,862 Taggings (connections between links and tags), and 5,007,713 Database Loads or Queries (like page loads)…including many robot visits it seems. Over 2.3 million of these database loads took place just during 2013.

To Google Analytics, since July 2010 this translates to 10,572 Visits, 7,694 Unique Visitors, 28,571 Pageviews, 2.70 Pages/Visit, 00:05:05 Avg. Visit Duration, 72.38% Bounce Rate, 72.78% % New Visits. And as InfoWarDocs.org from May 2009 to July 2010: 16,681 Visits, 10,379 Unique Visitors, 43,482 Pageviews, 2.61 Pages/Visit, 00:03:59 Avg. Visit Duration, 78.37% Bounce Rate, 62.15% % New Visits. Lots of robots I’m sure, but I am pleased to see the average visit duration over five minutes.

AltBib.Com 5 Million

AltBib.Com 5 Million

AltBib.Com is a bibliography for the alternative media. This site is a completely free research tool used to collect and organize as much important documentation as possible, largely mainstream sources referenced by alternative media and interesting films. Please collaborate by suggesting related document links.

For better and worse, it is primarily my perspective via the various outlets i follow and the sources they use. The bulk is comprised of sources cited from the Tragedy & Hope community of media creators (http://TragedyAndHope.com), the featured stories from PrisonPlanet.com, various drug policy reform activist newsletters, and periodically the Facebook shares from the brilliant friends. I bet that roughly one out of every articles/documents/videos i consume gets documented, systematically tagged, and archived there on AltBib.Com.

Here is my original video introducing AltBib.Com…

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 12.9.2013

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Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 12.1.2013

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Giving and Getting more than Presents this Year – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/12/01/giving-and-getting-more-than-presents-this-year/

Thanksgiving and Hanukkah are just behind us, while Christmas is just a mere three weeks away.  We’ve entered that time of year again…the holidays.  Three big traditions come up in my life around this time: getting and giving presents, seeing family, and preparing for the new year.  I’m going to spend the next three blog posts reflecting on each of these traditions and how we can deepen them.

So this week I’m looking at getting and giving presents.  When I romanticize it, it’s a wonderful tradition of giving and getting appreciation, support, love, and celebration.  But when I’m in the thick of it, I often feel obligated, burdened, and judged.

Do I give a gift to my cousin, or my uncle, who I haven’t spoken to since the last Christmas truly as an expression of my gratitude that they’re (vaguely) in my life?  Or do I give the gift because I feel obligated since if I don’t I might be judged or look down on?  Do I give the gift because I have to?

I certainly do give gifts to people out of a sense of obligation.  And I notice that what comes along with that is this resentment about the holidays.  ”Oh geeze, better tighten my belt and stick close to my budget” I groan.

And I spend a good deal of my time picking presents while worrying about “will this person like it?”, “will they be disappointed/hurt/upset if they don’t like it?”, “what would that person think of me if I don’t get them a gift?”

I remember this worry about being judged going back as far as when I was little.  My parents and other kids at school would tell me “Santa only brings presents to good children.  Bad kids get coal.”  What a message that is for kids, “if you’re good then you get presents, and if you’re bad you get a lump of coal while watching everyone else opening up their presents.”  A reward and punishment system at its best.

But all of this resentment, obligation, and judgment seem so at odds with the general message of joy, celebration, and good cheer.  And so I want to find a new way to relate to this tradition of giving and receiving.

We just left Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to expressing gratitude and appreciations.  What a wonderful idea for a holiday!  In fact, I find Thanksgiving to be one of the most fun holidays because it is completely centered around sharing a meal with loved ones and expressing your appreciation for each of them.  Who doesn’t want to get invited to that meal?

And so what if for this holiday season I, and you, practiced giving to others in the form of giving appreciations.  If we practiced giving one another peace and harmony by acting calm and civil while shopping or traveling.  If we practiced giving comfort and hope to people as we treat them with extra patience and compassion these next few weeks.  What if you and I found novel and interesting ways to give to all sorts of people in our lives, certainly family and friends, but also co-workers and strangers.  We might notice that in giving some small acts of kindness each day we will receive so much more.

And what if you and I practiced receiving little joys from one another.  Really receive the next time someone says an earnest “thank you”.  Really take it in the next time someone goes out of their way to help you out.  Really feel the joy that comes from knowing you contributed in some way to another person’s life.

Instead of focusing on some sort of material giving and getting, let’s focus on receiving and giving more joy, honesty, compassion, respect, and love to one another this holiday season.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 11.25.2013

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My Opinion of Authority (1999)

Recently found college essay, revealing my early resistance to appeals to authority…

When I was younger, I was under the impression that figures of authority were different from ordinary people. People in high positions ranging from the Vice President of the United States, to teachers, meant they must be special. It was not until my mid-teens when I came to a realization that all people, no matter their rank in society, are just people like me.

My younger brother and I started buying cigarettes from vending machines when I was in 2nd grade to prove that kids only three feet tall could do it. We testified and helped get an ordinance passed that banned cigarette vending machines in Montgomery County. The law was later overturned in court, so we began to testify yearly at the Maryland State Assembly on tobacco-related legislation. Over the past 10 years, my brother and I have created many opportunities to see what politicians are like and how they are normal people. When I was 12 years old, my brother and I met with Maryland State Delegate Hixson and she told us that our vending machine stings were illegal and that we could be arrested. Two weeks after this little chat, we testified before her committee in support of a state ban on cigarette vending machines. We told the Committee what she told us and then explained that we looked at the law and what she told us was far from the truth. Publicly embarrassing the Chair of the Maryland House Ways and Means Committee felt quite empowering. This experience confirmed my suspicions that politicians, aside from their views differing from mine, could be sneaky and manipulative, even to a couple of kids. She was just a person who disagreed with us. In the end, we set her role of power aside and were able to correct her error without feeling any risk despite the great difference in power between us.

Students Oppose Smoking (S.O.S.), which I am currently the chair of, was invited to participate in a “Roundtable Discussion” with Vice President Al Gore. Our countywide student-led organization has accomplished a great heal during the last few years, including a tobacco survey reaching over 10,000 high school students and 5,000 middle school students. Unlike us, most of the other youth invited to this White House event had not done much at all on the issue. When we were told to put on matching T-shirts and sit cross-legged on the floor, it became clear this was essentially a photo-op so Gore would be seen talking about smoking with kids. We resisted blending in during this televised event. Instead we raised powerful data from our extensive survey to support solid ideas that had never really been discussed at a national level. After multiple members of our group had presented almost the only substantive arguments, a person on Gore’s staff told us to stop bringing up our data when we spoke. We disregarded this request, and continued to make excellent points using our statistics.

This encounter made me realize that at the Vice President’s so called “Roundtable Discussion,” he did not really want to listen to what we had to say, but merely wanted to look good for the cameras. If he had actually wanted to discuss this important problem with us he would have shown more real interest in our proposals. To the public, it was important to show he cares, but in reality he was placed in this position as a normal busy person who can pretend to be concerned about anything. If I had watched the White House event on television, I would have thought he really wanted to get more opinions. But because I was there as a participant, it became clear that even one of the highest politicians in the country, whom I otherwise like, was for the most part just another person smiling and nodding, and not much different from another charismatic individual.

One last example of how the pedestal of authority figures was significantly lowered dates back to 10th grade when I attempted to represent Richard Montgomery High School for a project in the Final Frontiers competition held annually at the National Institute for Standards in Technology (NIST). It was required that all 11th grade physics students build a contraption for one event of the competition. At the in-school competition to determine who would represent the school, I was the only sophomore competing against a large group of juniors. The project I had chosen voluntarily to construct was a catapult made out of straws and tape designed to throw a ping pong ball the furthest. I ended up being the runner up for our school and the alternate at NIST. The 11th grade group who beat me performed terribly at NIST. At the competition, I had known I would not be able to actually participate, so I had asked an official judge to measure how far my catapult would throw. My design would have been good enough to win second place at the countywide competition.

This experience was awful for me. Although I was happy with the caliber of my design, I was disgruntled not to receive credit for it. I wrote a letter to another physics teacher explaining how I felt the teacher in charge of the in-school competition had made a bad judgement call and how she probably should have had a run off between the catapults. The results between my catapult and that of the juniors were so close, measurements had been so inaccurate, and she seemed to favor the other team of three girls. I hoped this expression of my opinion might help to prevent this possible unfairness from happening again. I still respect the teacher but I definitely see that she is just like other people and perhaps made a mistake.

Although I never had a defining epiphany, it is because of a serious of experiences like these that have made me less intimidated by adults no matter their position. I maintain great respect for those deserving, but I feel more confident to discuss or debate with adults (especially powerful adults) because I know they are just people like me and they have their imperfections.

This attitude of questioning authority also occurred recently in my college application process. Although several adults, including my parents, urged me to apply to several schools, I took their arguments into consideration and prescribed my own point of view that the University of Maryland was ideal for me and this should be the only place I should apply. I listened and considered the opinions from many elders (figures of authority) and felt secure in making an independent decision. I have been stuck on your institution since I first toured the Engineering School in 9th grade. Even after seeing colleges like MIT and Georgia Tech more recently, these visits only confirmed that I wanted to enroll at UMD. I look forward to taking classes on all the specific topics I am interested in learning about and plan on staying in college for a long time to continue this learning process.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 11.18.2013

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Safety – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2013/11/17/safety/

Feeling safe is essential to resolving conflicts.  But what do I mean by feeling safe?  Certainly it means freedom from physical danger like violence or abuse.  But it also means freedom from emotional danger like judgments, put downs, manipulation, and insults.  All of these emotional dangers create fear in us, and this feeling of fear is the exact opposite of feeling safe.

Feeling unsafe can create a negative cycle.  Once one person feels unsafe, they are likely going to act out some sort of fight, flight, or freeze reaction.  They might raise their voice and make a judgment.  Or they might shut down.  Whatever it is, this reaction will probably result in the other person feeling unsafe too.  And once your both are feeling unsafe, you both are acting out fight, flight, freeze responses, which just continue to trigger one another.  Ultimately fear breeds more fear.

So for you to navigate difficult conflicts well, you must learn how to identify the negative cycle of feeling unsafe, and interrupt it.

Here’s a moment when I did this.  I was leading a workshop, and a participant and I started getting into a conflict.  He really wanted to get heard, and I really wanted to move the group forward.  I started feeling really unsafe.  And I could tell that each time I tried to “move things along” this made the participant more vocal.  Suddenly it dawned on me “oh, he’s not feeling really heard right now.  He probably feels really unsafe that I keep trying to move things along.”  This was followed by another sudden realization “oh, I want to move things alone because as the leader I’m feeling unsafe because I’m scared that other participants are going to get bored and disinterested”.

I decided to just voice this out loud.  I said to the participant I was struggling with “I can tell how important it is for you to get heard.  It’s really painful and hard that you’re not getting the recognition and understanding you want.  I’m also feeling really scared that other people aren’t getting the growth and engagement that they were hoping for.  I’m wondering if you could share just one more time on this, I could show you some empathy, and then we could move on?”

It worked!  He sighed with relief.  He shared a brief anecdote.  I reflected what he had said.  And then the group took a collective sigh of relief as we were able to move forward.

This story highlights three main tools we can use to create safety,

First, make a request.  If you notice that you’re not feeling safe, just share that!  Name it.  And then make a request to your partner for what would help you feel safer.

Second, show compassion and empathize with your partner.  When you notice that your partner is acting out of a place of fear, and feeling unsafe, try to have compassion for that.  Empathize with them, use reflective listening.  Help them realize that you actually are present with them, and that you care about their experience.

Third, be vulnerable.  This last one is a bit counter intuitive.  But we can actually create safety sometimes by being more vulnerable and honest about our own experience.  This is because it invites the other person to do the same thing.  And when two people are openly sharing from the heart, safety naturally arises.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

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