Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 7.20.2014

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(Blog) Tragedy & Hope: Author & Adventurer launches North American Tour at Tragedy &am…

(Audio) Gnostic Media: Dr. Rima Laibow interviews Jan Irvin on MKULTRA (United We Strike R…

(Video) The Corbett Report: Summer Vacation 2014

(Video) The Corbett Report: How Bilderberg Works: An Institutional Analysis

(Video) The Corbett Report: The Geneva Business Insider / Pedophiles in Power 

(Video) The Corbett Report: Century of Enslavement: The History of The Federal Reserve

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Truth Over Comfort: The Truth About American Eugenics

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Financial Survival: Money, Power and Revolution

(Audio) The Corbett Report: FLNWO #16 – Charlie Wilson’s War

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode118 – Lovely Day

(Audio) School Sucks episode #298: Home Education For History’s Sake, With Bill Buppert

(Audio) Meria Heller Show: Roaring Truth with Meria and Jim Fetzer

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Insight – Anchorman 2 Review & The Politics of Will Ferrell

(Audio) Red Ice Radio 3Fourteen: Michael T. Griffith – The Northern War of Aggression & Civil War Disinfo

Three Signs You Need a Vacation – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2014/07/15/three-signs-you-need-a-vacation/

Ahhhhh……I’ve just returned from a short weekend camping trip.  I feel so relieved, relaxed, rejuvenated, and refreshed.  And as I reflect upon the weeks leading up to my camping trip I notice three signs that I needed a vacation.  And the last one surprised me.  I’m going to keep this short since I just returned, and I hope these can be help you figure out if you need a vacation too.

First, I was having a hard time staying motivated.  I’m sure everyone knows moments where they are “supposed” to be working, but you just can’t find the energy or the focus to actually do it.  Often you may view this as “lack of discipline” or worst, outright “laziness”.  But could this lack of energy and focus be your body’s early warning sign that you need some rest?  Your body is a wonderful tool which gives you a lot of helpful information.  So when your body gives you a message that your mind doesn’t like, don’t try to overrule it.  Listen.

When we see kids that are “cranky” we naturally assume that they are tired and need rest.  When we see adults that are “cranky” we naturally assume they are mean people.  When did the link between irritability and the need for rest become separated in our minds?  If you notice that your temper is getting triggered easily, that you’re stressed by the slightest wrinkle in your plans, or that small annoyances are blown out of proportion, then you could really use some rest.  Don’t judge yourself for your irritability; treat yourself to some rest and relaxation.

Potentially the most surprising sign that we need a vacation is that we’ve become addicted to work.  I am a big fan of productivity and accomplishment.  Potentially too big a fan.  Have you ever been jumping from big project to big project without even a thought to taking a break in between?  Have you ever been so focused on getting work done, that you’ve neglected other aspects of your life?  Work and accomplishment can be so addictive that we lose ourselves to it.  And while riding the wave you may feel like you have boundless energy, the constant stream of work is taking its toll.  So make sure to build in time to savor the completion of a big project, take time to appreciate and celebrate, and take time to rest before the next big one.

A final note.  You may define a “vacation” as taking a trip to some exotic or fun-filled location other than your home.  I want to suggest that this definition may be a limiting one.  You could define a “vacation” as any time you take to truly relax.  Many people waste their relaxation time worrying about the future, brooding over stressors, or being lost in the past.  Vacations are these moments where we are completely in the moment, usually because the moment is a novel one.  But you can be completely in the moment and relaxing in your hammock in the backyard, or on your living room sofa, or out on the town.  The healing power of vacations doesn’t come from where they happen, it comes from having time to be in the moment and truly relax.  Don’t let lack of time off, lack of preparation, lack of transportation, lack of destination, or lack of funds stop you from taking a vacation right now.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 7.12.2014

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(Video) Gnostic Media episode #204: Kristov Atlas interview, pt. 2 – “Anonymous Bitcoin, Cryptography, and Online Safety”

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(Audio) Gnostic Media episode #202: Bill Joslin interview – “Meditation: Deconstructing Nonsense”

(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week: Videos Gaza Rampage, Wall Street Cyberwar, Big Pharma Tweets

(Video) The Corbett Report: Century of Enslavement: The History of The Federal Reserve

(Video) The Corbett Report: Where’s The Fed Documentary?

(Video) The Corbett Report: Geneva Business Insider with David Smith 

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Why End The Fed? James Corbett on The Janssen Report

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode117 – Cake And Eat It

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @DeadlineLive: James Evan Pilato on Borders and Boundaries

(Audio) Meria Heller Show: Roaring Truth with Meria and Jim Fetzer

(Audio) School Sucks episode #297: Behold A Dictator (Part 1 of 2), With Thaddeus Russell

(Audio) School Sucks episode #296: FREE A/V – Announcements, Bees, Nazis and the Moon (August 2012)

(Audio) School Sucks episode #295: Entrepreneurship, Freedom and Fulfillment (with Jake Desyllas)

(Video) School Sucks episode #294 (Supplemental): Strike the Leaves – The Problem With Anti-Bullying Laws

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(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Thomas Sheridan – Cultural Marxism & The Psyop in Europe

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: David McGowan – Covert Ops Behind the Hippie Dream

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Embracing it All – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2014/06/29/embracing-it-all/

I do this thing, and tell me if you do it too.  I often find that I try to avoid, transmute, “heal”, or “transcend” my negative, “bad”, emotions in order that I may spend more time in the positive, “good”, emotions.  I don’t want to feel angry, disappointed, bored, sad, or scared.  I imagine to myself “if I meditate enough…if I practice NVC enough….if I am present enough…if I am compassionate enough…if I’m enlightened…if I’m saved…if I’m fully healed…then I will no longer have any of these painful feelings.”  I hope to reach a state where I will have two emotions: contentment and joy.  And that’s it.

I think the reasons I do this are many fold.  I’ve encountered numerous religious/spiritual faiths and traditions that teach me that the elimination of suffering is possible, and that if one can live within the divine then every day is a blessing.  I’ve grown up in a culture where negative emotions are viewed as “less desirable”, as “unflattering”, and “avoidable”.  And of course, emotions like disappointment, anger, and sadness are painful!  And so I’ve quite naturally wanted less pain in my life and more pleasure.

And it has come to my attention that this approach to life is misguided.  And so if you are like me in that you too have consciously or unconsciously been trying to have only positive emotions and eliminate all the negative ones, then let me share with you some important words.

You are big enough to be with the discomfort, the pain, of negative emotions.

You do not need to “get” anywhere; you are already the person you are meant to be.  If you don’t believe this it is only because you have created ideal images of humanity and then used those ideals against yourself.

You are whole when you embrace your positive and your negative emotions.

You are not meant to have a blissful experience, you are meant to have a human experience.

You might not like these words because you may not want to embrace these hard, difficult, painful feelings.  That’s okay.  Can you embrace in this moment the fact that you are resisting and don’t want to feel painful emotions?  And if you find these words liberating I am pleased.  Learn to accept all moments of life, the pleasure and the pain.  Painful emotions are not undesirable or to be avoided.

If you’re mad, be mad.  If you’re scared, be scared.  If you’re sad, be sad.  Don’t tell yourself that you should be feeling anything different, and don’t listen to anyone who tells you that you should or can feel something different.  Be true to yourself.

This of course is difficult to do, and it takes practice.  But the result is a rich life and a more authentic you.  It is probably a life long journey, but along the way you will see such marvelous things.  Please join me in embracing it all.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 6.20.2014

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(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week: Iraq’s Break Up is the Real “Mission Accomplished”

(Video) The Corbett Report: No, WWII Did Not End The Great Depression

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(Video) The Corbett Report: US Menaces the Asia-Pacific – James Corbett on In The Now

(Audio) The Corbett Report: James Corbett on the Failings (and Promise) of the Alt Media

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Power Hour: Iraq Falling Apart is the Real “Mission Accomplished”

(Audio) The Corbett Report: James Perloff Exposes the CFR Agenda

(Audio) The Corbett Report: The BFP Roundtable Discusses Public Apathy

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode114 – Right Time

(Audio) School Sucks episode #293: A Valedictorian Reflects On Her Experiences With “Playing School”

(Audio) School Sucks episode #292 (Supplemental): Brett On Peace News Now With Derrick J.

(Video) School Sucks project: Living Consciously (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlight…

(Audio) School Sucks episode #291: FREE A/V – Presence and Productivity Series Out-Takes (August 2013)

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Jon Rappoport – Snowden, Self-Censorship & Friendly Fascism

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Joseph Atwill – Shakespeare’s Secret Messiah & Vengeance on Europe

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Debating or Relating – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2014/06/15/debating-or-relating/

“No, no, no.  I called you first, and we talked…then you decided to go out anyways!”

“What??  That’s completely wrong!  You didn’t call me till after I was already out.”

“Really?  How could you be so dumb?  Look I’ll show you my phone to prove it.”

“Sure, let’s see.”

These two people are debating.  They are arguing over who is right and who is wrong.  The argument hinges upon who can remember the facts better.  Have you ever been stuck in this kind of conflict?  Both you and the other person are convinced you are right, and the other person is wrong.  And you are both set out to prove it.

As long as you and another person are debating over whose right and whose wrong you are stuck.  No one wants to be wrong, so both of you will dig in your heels, trying even harder to prove yourself right.  Often you’ll both walk away without ever resolving the issue.  If the issue does get resolved through debate, then one person must have been proven “wrong”.  That person now feels shame and resentment.  And now the relationship, the trust, has been damaged in some way.

Wanting to debate comes from the idea that there should be a “winner” and a “loser” in a fight.  That one person needs to come out on top, and the other person needs to submit.  That there is some absolute truth which one side knows about and the other side is at best ignorant about and at worst is lying about.

Relating is a whole different way of engaging.  Instead of proving whose right and whose wrong, what’s true and what’s false, you simply want to share with this other person who you are.  You want to share with this person your feelings, concerns, and desires as well as hear what is going on for the other person.  When you relate with someone you both acknowledge and respect that you are different people and may have different experiences of the same incident.  And from a mutual understanding of each other you can both find solutions that leave everyone happy.

Wanting to relate comes from the idea that conflicts really can be “win-win” as opposed to “win-lose”.  Everyone’s needs deserve to be met, and can probably be met.  Relating comes from the belief that solutions to issues are found from understanding all sides of the issue, and that each one of us have a glimpse of just one angle on the issue.  So together we can get a full picture of the issue.

Relating looks incredibly different than the opening example.

“I’m worried that you went out knowing that I had asked you to stay in.  And I’m scared that I can’t trust you.”

“I get that you’re worried about being able to trust me, and I’m upset and mad because I want you to trust me.  I really just wanted to go out and have fun…I want to be able to go out and relax with friends without having to ask for permission.”

“I know you want to be able to relax with your friends and I also want you to feel free and not relying upon me for permission.  I would also like though some reassurance and respect because I worry about you.”

The fundamental shift is not about using certain tools or methods over others.  The fundamental shift comes from an inward reorientation from having to be right to wanting to understand.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 6.9.2014

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(Video) Gnostic Media: An Interview with Freeman Burt, Dr. Tom, and Greg – “The Demurrer and Probable Cause”

(Video) The Corbett Report: Introducing the new CorbettReport.com website

(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week Thai Hunger Games, 3D Ear, DIY Broadband

(Video) The Corbett Report:: The Answer to Common Core: Alternative Models of Education


(Video) The Corbett Report: Interview With A Bilderberger – Julia Tourianski on The Corbett Report

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Matthew Slater Explores the Meaning of Money

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Libya Update with James and JoAnne Moriarty and Furaj Muftah

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode113 – #FrequentFlyer

(Audio) School Sucks episode #290: The Hazards of Disconnection – Two Conversations and An Article (With Darrell Becker, Mark Edge an…

(Audio) School Sucks episode #289: Autonomy Through Agorism (Part 4) – Permaculture Connections to The Trivium, The NAP and The Practice o…

(Video) School Sucks Project: I’ll Be Happy When… (Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Series Highlights #1)

(Audio) The Meria Heller Show: The Blasted News

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Dan Park – Sweden’s Soviet Style Art Censorship & Dying Freedom of Speech

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Frank Salter – War on Human Nature, Replacement Level Migration in the West & …

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Harry Cooper – Hitler in Argentina

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 6.2.2014

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(Video) Gnostic Media: An Interview with Freeman Burt, Dr. Tom, and Greg – “The Demurrer and Probable Cause”

(Video) The Corbett Report: Why We Must Oppose Bilderberg

(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week Bilderberg 2014, Snowjob Spying, Defamation Nightmare


(Video) The Corbett Report: Why Common Core Must Be Opposed

(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week – Fed Laundering, Nazi Royals, GMO Ban

(Audio) The Corbett Report: The Geneva Business Insider with David L. Smith

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Dan Dicks and Luke Rudkowski Describe Their Bilderberg Arrest

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Michael Maharrey Delivers Good News About the Nullify NSA Campaign

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Christopher Black Destroys the Myth of the Rwandan “Genocide”

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Yoshioka Tatsuya Introduces the Global Article 9 Campaign to Abolish War

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode112 – #SimpleAndSure

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode111 – Mental Radio


(Audio) Media Monarchy: #FoodWorldOrder: Interview w/ Vicki Robin of ‘Blessing The Hands That Feed Us’

(Audio) School Sucks episode #288: Listener Q&A With Thaddeus Russell

(Audio) School Sucks episode #287 (Supplemental): Brett On Anarchast With Jeff Berwick

(Video) School Sucks Project: Brett On Anarchast With Jeff Berwick

(Audio) The Meria Heller Show: Meria With James Hufferd, Historian

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Paul Craig Roberts – The Crisis in Ukraine & The Geopolitical Chess Game

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Israel Shamir – The Ukraine in Turmoil

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Ramzpaul – Multicultural Chaos, Peaceful Nationalism & White Guilt

(Audio) Red Ice Radio 3Fourteen: Elizabeth Holgrave – Germanic Heathenism & Preserving European Heritage

(Audio) Red Ice Radio 3Fourteen: Craig Fitzgerald – National Anarchist Alliance & Multicultural Madness

Chain Reaction – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2014/06/01/chain-reaction/

Put out fear, and they’ll feel fear.
It’s a chain reaction.
Put out love, and they’ll feel love.
It’s a chain reaction.
-Cloud Cult

These words come from a song that I deeply cherish.  I think these words capture the real essence of Nonviolent Communication.  Any of you readers who own dogs will know the truth of these words too.

I wonder though, what does this truth teach us about living in the world?

The first reaction in our modern world is to try to understand these words literally.  ”Well clearly it says you should always put out love, and whenever you put out fear you should only expect more fear.”  But if we take a few moments to examine that we see that’s just one more obligation, one more “have to”/”should” statement.   And as with any “should” thought, if we buy into it we only create more suffering in our lives.

So if these lyrics aren’t telling us what we ought to do or should do, then what can they be teaching us?  Well, first they point to a simple truth about empathy.  Empathy is this experiencing what another person is experiencing.  This can be a conscious act, but it often times is something that happens without our awareness.

We watch a sad movie and suddenly are whole lives are just terrible.  You watch a silly rom-com and all your blues melt away.  Emotions are contagious.

With that knowledge, you can be aware of what situations you allow yourself to be exposed to.  With more awareness of your environment and how it is affecting you, you may be able to make choices that better serve your needs.  If you’re feeling tired and stressed from a long day at work, it may not be the best time to have that important conversation with your spouse or child.  If you’ve just had a very difficult and challenging conversation with someone, you may need to rest before engaging in the next conversation.  The people around us affect us.  When you are with this person, do you walk away feeling refreshed or drained?  What does that tell you about whether you want to keep being around them?

If you are aware of your environment and how it affects you, then you also know how to change your environment to shift your feelings.

And in some ways this is simply what the process of identifying your needs is.  It is the process of identifying what in the current environment isn’t working for you and then figuring out what could happen in the environment that would make life more beautiful.

But don’t think this means you are simply a product of your environment.  You have agency too.  When a hospice chaplain enters a patient’s room, she helps that patient have more peace and acceptance about their situation by entering the room with peace and acceptance in her own heart.  You can help your spouse, your kids, your friend calm down when they’re upset by approaching them with love and acceptance.

Notice the chain reactions in your day.  Notice how other people and your environment affect you today.  Notice how you affect others when you are feeling one way and then when you’re feeling a different way.  Notice the interconnection, the chain reaction, of every moment.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 5.19.2014

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(Video) Richard Grove on Declare Your Independence with Ernest Hancock / Why Technology without Reason is Not our Friend

(Audio) Peace Revolution episode 083: America and the Great Game: A Strategy of Tension

(Video) Gnostic Media: Psychedelic Intelligence – The C.I.A. and the Counterculture

(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week – 9/11 Whitewash Memorial Opens in NYC

(Video) The Corbett Report: BFP The Eyeopener – China’s “War on Terror”

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Connie Fournier Recounts Her Defamation Lawsuit Nightmare

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Keith Harmon Snow Reveals the Truth About the Rwandan Genocide
 
(Audio) The Corbett Report: James Corbett Lays Out How the West is Engineering Its Own Downfall

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Power Hour: Birth of the Global Tax Grid?

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @PumpUpThaVolume: Episode110 – #Smokin’  
(Audio) School Sucks episode #286: Autonomy Through Agorism (Part 3) – Permaculture Mail Bag and Barnyard Aftershow

(Audio) School Sucks episode #285: Where Do White People Come From? (with Thaddeus Russell)

(Audio) School Sucks Project: Brett On Free Talk Live

(Blog) School Sucks Project: Education Freedom Report 05-13-14: Goddard Schools, Homeschool Fash…

(Audio) The Meria Heller Show: Meria delivers the news

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Michael Schratt – Man Made UFOs: Deep Black Budget Military Aerospace Vehicles

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Andrei Znamenski – Red Shambhala: The Dark Side of Tibetan Buddhism

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Mark McCandlish – Sequestered Technology & Offworld Exploration

Emotional Fatigue – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2014/05/18/emotional-fatigue/

We can’t be at our best all the time.

Sometimes there are moments when I just can’t bring myself to give someone empathy.  Or I can’t slow myself down and be present enough to share my feelings and needs, leaving out my judgments and evaluations.  Or I find that I feel so much distress that I can’t help but make a demand.

When I first started learning Nonviolent Communication I would judge myself harshly for these moments.  ”I blew it again” or “I know better, why don’t I do better?” or even simply “I suck”.

Sound familiar?

But judging myself in those moments only pushed me deeper into sadness, confusion, anger, and feeling defeated.  Those judgments of myself didn’t meet my needs for compassion, integrity, understanding, or support at all.  And so as I’ve grown in my understanding and using of Nonviolent Communication I’ve come to accept these moments where I can’t choose the strategy of NVC as moments of “emotional fatigue”.

Emotional fatigue is something that is temporary and can be addressed.  If it isn’t though, it can quickly evolve into full on burn out.  So when I notice that I’m emotionally drained, I ask myself “what are my needs right now?”  Often what comes up is rejuvenation, rest, relaxation, empathy…sometimes connection and sometimes space…sometimes peace and sometimes play.

What would this look like for you?  What if the next time you snap at a friend or co-worker, the next time you make a demand to your kids, or the next time you try to fix your partner’s problems instead of giving empathy, you stopped and realized that you might be experiencing some emotional fatigue?  That you might just not have the energy in this moment to be fully present, honest, and compassionate.  And what would it look like for you if you didn’t judge yourself for that, but rather was curious about what could help you feel more rejuvenated?

You are not a superhero.  You are not an enlightened guru.  You are not perfect.  And that is okay.  Be curious about yourself.  What helps you to relax and recharge?  Why are you trying to “push through” instead of “taking space” for yourself?  Why are you holding yourself to unreasonable ideals?

We are most capable of helping other’s meet their needs when our own needs are satisfied.

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 5.12.2014

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(Audio) Peace Revolution episode 083: America and the Great Game: A Strategy of Tension

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(Audio) The Corbett Report: Rick Rozoff Calls Out the NATO Warmongers

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Ryan Grant Explains Distributism

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Pepe Escobar Breaks Down China’s Uyghur Problem

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Christoph Germann Explains China’s War on Terror

(Audio) The Corbett Report: Carlos Morales Blows the Whistle on Child Protective Services

(Audio) Media Monarchy: @DeadlineLive: James Evan Pilato on #Hollywood’s Watergate


(Audio) Media Monarchy: Interview w/ @JonRappoport on #MKULTRA #Jazz

(Audio) School Sucks episode #284 (Live Show): Education Alternatives Spotlight – Informal University

(Audio) School Sucks Live Marathon Show – Full Unedited Video

(Audio) The Meria Heller Show: Meria delivers the news

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Mikkel Clair Nissen – Psychopathic Narcissism & Pathological Collectivism in Denmark

(Audio) Red Ice Radio: Michel Merle – Ior Bock, The Bock Saga & Excavation of the Temple of Lemminkäinen

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Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 5.7.2014

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(Video) James Corbett & James Evan Pilato: New World Next Week – Justifying Murder, Net No-trality, #myNYPD

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Why Do You Do What You Do? – by Kind Communication

Re-posted From: http://KindCommunication.org/2014/05/04/why-do-you-do-what-you-do/

When you give your partner a kiss…when you offer to help a friend move furniture…when you engage in a friendly conversation with a stranger on a bus…when you start teaching communication classes in your local community…why do you do it?

Why do you do the things you do?

There are lots of answers to this question.  And those answers may be complex and vary from one activity to the next.  But I’d like to invite you to investigate your more fundamental motivations.  We all have something deep down that’s driving us.  Some of us are seeking approval, others are trying to be a “good” person, and yet others are just trying to be their most authentic, truest, self.  Which is yours?

If you’re doing it for approval, then you’re probably thinking to yourself “what does this person think of me?”  I used to seek approval in my relationships.  I needed my partner to give me their approval for me to be content.  When I was trying to make a decision I would ask myself “what would she want me to say or do?”  That’s the indication if the motivation behind your actions is to seek approval.  If when you’re trying to make a decision the deciding factor is “what would he/she/they want me to do?”

If you’re doing it to be a “good” person, then you’re probably thinking to yourself “was that the right thing to do?”  When I tell myself that there is a “right” thing to do and a “wrong” thing to do, I really get myself in a bind.  I’ll judge myself; put myself down, for just wanting to do the “wrong” thing.  I constantly see myself as “not good enough” because I don’t always do the “right” thing.  Is any of this sounding familiar?  Then you’re motivation behind your actions may be to be a “good” person.  To emulate some ideal standard of doing it “right”.

If you’re doing it to be your most authentic, truest, self, then you’re probably thinking to yourself “is this deeply satisfying?”  When your motivation is to express your authentic self there doesn’t need to be any guess work about what others will approve of or what’s “right or wrong”.  You only have to listen to what is deeply satisfying to yourself.  Does this activity give you deep satisfying joy?  Or does it feel like drudgery?  Is it a temporary pleasure that leaves you with an uncomfortable craving for more?

Our motivations are always complex things.  But this last option, wanting to just express your truest self, makes it much simpler.  Yes, I like to receive approval.  Yes, I like to feel like I’m a “good” person.  But with both of those, I find that they are temporary pleasures that leave me craving for more.  When my motivation is to be accepted, I’m never accepted enough because there are always new people whom I have to win approval from.  When my motivation is to be “good”, I’m never “good” enough because there is always that moment when I don’t do the “right” thing.  But when my motivation is to express my truest self, then I can be content because I can rest assured that I’ve done that, no matter what the outcome.

Why do you do what you do?

KindCommunication.org is a project by a close friend of Wiki World Order, Alex Leach. WWO fully supports the study, practice, and teaching of non-violent communication as one of the core solutions which already exists.

Tragedy and Hope Media Mail / This Week’s Publications 4.28.2014

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